I’m a sucker for good looks. I have to admit it; I love a good, dapper-looking man. But the other day I was reading the bit in the Bible when Samuel goes to anoint one of Jesse’s sons as the new king of Israel. The first son comes in and Samuel is like, ‘this must be the one. He’s so good-looking!’ But God says to him, ‘Nah, not him. Never mind his looks; I look at a man’s heart. What he looks like on the outside isn’t as important’ (my very own paraphrase). It got me thinking about how much emphasis we (OK, I) place on looks. Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s important for people to make an effort to look good and I’m not saying beware of good-looking people. But sometimes I do think that dismissing someone because we don’t like what they look like means that we can miss out on getting to know the real person underneath. Or worse still, ignore warning signals when we meet someone that’s just drop-dead gorgeous.
As a woman, I appreciate that there is something about having pretty make-up, wearing a nice dress and having nice hair. It makes one feel a bit more confident (and trust me, you don’t want to see me first thing in the morning!) But there’s a bit in the Bible that talks about where our beauty should come from. It’s in 1 Peter chapter 3. It says,
‘Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight…’
Your character is what should draw people to you. I’m sure some of you reading this have met people who are gorgeous on the outside but ‘nothing to write home about’ (as my mum would say) when you get to know them. Having good looks is one thing. Having good looks as well as a good heart, now that’s something!
My point is this; spend less time trying to make yourself beautiful on the outside and focus on working on the real you; the person on the inside. Be nice to people. Care about them. Like, really care. Go out of your way to help people. Be generous. I could go on and on…because at the end of the day, your looks may get you the attention of that man / woman you desire, but ultimately, your character is what will keep them.