Friday, 29 November 2013

The Singles' Ten Commandments...

1.      Thou shalt get a life. Don't be boring; it's not attractive. Find a hobby. Get involved in something; anything! (OK, maybe not anything, but something you enjoy that’s also legal). Not only would it make your life a bit more interesting, but it’ll give you something to do instead of sitting around moping and moaning about the fact that you’re still single.

2.      Thou shalt be patient. Patience is a virtue (I have no idea who said that, but it’s true). We don’t always get what we want, when we want, but that’s just life. So, be patient. Don’t rush into marriage, or a relationship for that matter, because you may just end up rushing out. Be patient and wait for the right person.

3.      Thou shalt make an effort. Make an effort to go out and meet people. Make an effort with your appearance. Get rid of that ‘can’t be bothered’ attitude. It won’t get you a husband (or a wife).

4.      Thou shalt not be too picky. Give people a chance. We all have our lists, but seriously, must she be a size 6? Does he REALLY have to be six feet tall? Must he be at least five years older? Does she REALLY have to know how to cook be a great cook? (*insert innocent face*) Throw that list away. OK, maybe just shorten it a bit and be realistic.

5.      Thou shalt not give in to pressure. You know, the pressure to settle down by a certain age because everyone else is settling down. Or to buy a house, or a new car. If you’re worried about your biological clock, take out the batteries. Or even better, throw it away. Refuse to care what people say or think. Just refuse.

6.      Thou shalt prepare. I once heard someone say, ‘if you fail to prepare, prepare to fail’. Or something along those lines. I think they were talking about exams, but the same can be said for marriage as well. Pray about it. Read books. Talk to married people and learn from their experiences. Yes, nothing will ever prepare you for marriage but marriage itself, but finding out what you can about a destination before you arrive there can’t do you any harm, surely.

7.      Thou shalt work on thine self. Work on the attributes you’d like to see in a potential spouse. Learn to share. Learn to listen. Let a friend win an argument for once. Work on putting other people first. Learn to forgive. Learn to forgive. Did I mention learn to forgive?

8.      Thou shalt not compare thine self to others. We’re all on individual journeys in life. God’s plan for you is different to His plan for your friend, or your sister even. Trust that when He says He won’t withhold any good thing from you, He means it. Don’t compare yourself with other people. Focus on your own life. You may want to remember this when you eventually get married too.

9.      Thou shalt not shop whilst hungry. In other words, avoid desperation. Anyone is attractive when you’re desperate. Don’t settle. Don’t compromise on your values or your standards. Know your worth. If you’re not sure, read Psalms 139 from verse 13 to 18. You’re freakin’ fearfully and wonderfully made! Avoid every appearance of desperation. Please.

10.  Thou shalt be thankful. You get to do what you want when you want, without having to consult anyone? Be thankful!


  1. How nice. First thing I read this morning. A must read for every single.

  2. Oh my, how true. I'll try real hard to resist the urge to write a post within this post.
    Technically, I'm not single but I feel some of these commandments apply to not single people too.
    It's important for not single people to get a life too so they don't stress the other person out too much and over burden them with having to be there always.
    It's important to be patient when things are not going too good in the relationship. Things might either get better or not. Just be patient and let things get better or not.
    It's important to make an effort on your appearance. Who said not being single means you should stop looking good? Vultures always hunt whether or not there's anything to hunt for.
    It's important not to give in to pressure. So you been dating the same person for 5 years plus. Really doesn't mean you should feel pressurised to get married to them especially when you know they are not the one. Who cares what people will say? People always talk no matter what you do, so why not do something that'll actually make you happy too.
    It's important to work on thine self. Put your partner first (some of the time) and forgive. It's so hard sometimes (might even seem next to impossible), but don't let your anger, hurt and bitterness take over you. FORGIVE!!!
    It's important not to compare yourself to others especially if the other person cheated. Resist the urge to compare yourself to the person you got cheated on with. Trust me, if they going to cheat, you being the world's best won't stop them from cheating.
    And remember, single or not, whatever you going through, you are going to be fine eventually, you just don't know it yet.

    1. :) Thanks for your comment Efua! You are right too, most of these 'commandments' apply to most people, single or not.

  3. Happy New Year, Renny! Lol @ taking out the batteries. That's a good one :-)

    I remember that there was a version of the saying you mentioned, pasted on our school's notice board: "Those who fail to plan, plan to fail." It makes a lot of sense in this context. Be proactive and change the things you can change, and leave the rest to God. Solid advice.

    1. Happy new year Relentless! You're right; it's important to be proactive and change what you can, and then, who knows...? :)

    2. Btw I can't seem to comment on your blog at the moment for some reason!

  4. Hi you talk about evangelism and great you plucked up courage to do so with a friend. Its a practice thing and you do it scared to start till confidence builds up. Be prepared think through your own testimony which a person can't argue with. Pick up a news item and say what do you think? is there life after death? you believe in God? show interest in them initially, family is hard to witness to granted! Design your own tract and its always a good intro as you hand it out. I went on street with a street preacher and he just got me to read a passage of the bible in public. Then I'd throw the odd word in and eventually I'd open my mouth and God filled it! This is the most important thing you can do with your life and the reason Jesus died for us, so be prepared and practise! It will get better but its always about stepping out of the boat in faith especially when you pray to heal someone! and you will get used to it and enjoy it believe me! One last thing the people in church who have no desire to do this and laugh, are probably not Christians as this really is the great commission. Blessings Colin :0)

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