Friday, 26 August 2011

Are you really living?

Some stuff's been on my mind recently and I need to share it with you guys. It's this; LIVE YOUR LIFE. Yes, live your life. This life is way too short to spend it pleasing people. It doesn't matter who it is (apart from God obviously). But seriously, it doesn't matter- friends, family, colleagues, bosses, church folk...the list is endless. Just live your life. Do what you want to do. Seriously. You'll regret less things if you do. Even if you make mistakes, at least, YOU made the decision. I don't know about you, but I tend to handle mistakes better if I know that I made the decision myself, than if I did it because someone else wanted me to. 

Now, the reason I'm writing this is because I've finally come to the point in my life (better late than never I guess) where I'm beginning to realise that my life really is mine to live, and no one else's. Don't get it twisted though, I'm not saying do whatever, not caring for anyone's feelings. I'm not saying don't listen to advice. I'm saying your future is in your hands. Your life is what you make of it. I'm beginning to understand that when Jesus talks about abundant life in John 10v10, He means a lot of things, but for me He also means living a life free of stress, worry and anxiety. He means living the life you were called/made to live, not the life other people want you to live. He means LIVING life, and not just existing. If you're living to please people, you're not really living. 

This is not about being selfish, but sometimes we need to ask ourselves certain questions. Here are some examples;

'This course I'm applying to university for, do I really want to do it, or am I applying for it just because my parents want me to?'
'That job I'm taking, do I really want it or am I just going for it because my spouse thinks it's best for me (or us)?'
'This woman I want to marry, do I really love her or am I going for her because my parents think she is suitable 'wife material'?'
'Am I always trying to make people happy at the expense of my own happiness?'

Sometimes we need to put ourselves first. I know this might sound contrary to what the Bible says about putting other people's needs before our own, but recently I'm beginning to realise that I can't keep putting other people first if it's only going to make me unhappy. We can show love to people in other ways that aren't always about doing what they want us to do. Sometimes saying NO when people expect us to say yes is the best thing we can do for them and for ourselves. Sometimes disagreeing with someone when they expect you to be a 'yes man' is the only way you'll gain that respect you deserve. Sometimes making a decision that goes against the mentality of the majority is the only way people will start taking you seriously. When you can do these things, with a clear conscience before God, you'll begin to get a taste of what it means to live. Really live.

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  1. I totally feeling you on the part of making a decision and standing by it or learning from the mistakes when i know the decision was ALL MINE. As for the part of living for no one but yourself, that's true. However i would advise that in the quest to live for yourself and no one and to earn respect of others, its important not to hurt the feelings of those around you but to gently and prayerfully make them see reason with why you have chosen the path you choose to tread.

  2. my dearest, it's been so long, and to think i'm the patron of this website! i love " sometimes saying no to people when they expect you to say yes is the best thing you can do for them and for yourself". i see your followership has increased, we should toast to that, and i'm going to send out those fliers!

  3. I totally feel you on this post, especially the part about learning to say "NO." Sometimes saying "YES" is more destructive than saying nothing at all. Thanks for encouraging me!